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Cellular Cravings

February 19, 2018 By John Du Cane

“You don’t want to love—your eternal and abnormal craving is to be loved. You aren’t positive, you’re negative. You absorb, absorb, as if you must fill yourself up with love, because you’ve got a shortage somewhere”—D. H. Lawrence

Do we have a shortage somewhere? A shortage that is creating an insatiable craving for more and more and more and more? Are we yearning for some ineffably deep connection that will finally make us whole? Are we pacing the streets of hope, umbilical cord in hand, looking for a place to plug it in? Such a condition is common to most mankind, but is particularly prevalent in those of us with a propensity to addiction.

In our using days, our cells were afire in a frenzy of unabated craving. Thousands upon thousands of starving creatures teamed within us, it seemed, with an insatiable appetite for the sweet succor of an endorphin hit. And more distressing yet, the more we fed the ravenous crowds of creatures, the more they multiplied within us—until a veritable army of desperados was set to storm the gates.

Cravings

As we moved into recovery, the debris of the creature wars lay all about us. We, the stunned survivors, could only shake our heads at the severed limbs, the smashed heads, the broken bones, the screams and cries of agony. Fortunately we were now connected to a fellowship that could help us gently and slowly pick up the pieces, clean up the battlefield and start our healing journey.

And also fortunately, help is at hand to start handling our cellular cravings so we can be less easily tipped into a risky neediness. Consistent meditation and movement can initiate a cascade of healing hormones within our bodies. As we regain the capacity to care and love, that care and love given and received initiates further benign cascades. Now the creatures are being fed with foods that don’t inflame them and stress them out. The creatures feel comforted—and at least to some extent—satisfied. We can relax into our beings and live in the moment more easily…

Today, let’s consider recommitting to activities that can have a healing impact on our creatures’ appetite. Let’s look at least one activity, in particular, that we could incorporate into our daily health regimen. And by “health regimen” we are naturally referring to the whole spectrum: body, mind and spirit…

Here’s one possible activity to consider:

Stand with your heels together, feet angled out at 45 degrees, knees slightly bent. Hold the hands at groin level just off the body, palms facing up, in a cup-like position. Inhale as you slowly raise your palms to upper chest level, exhale as you lower your hands back to your starting position.

Further enhance the movement of breath and energy by placing your attention initially at the base of your spine, then running it up to the top of your head on the inhale. On the exhale, run your attention down the front of your body to just below your navel. Do 10 or more repetitions.

I enjoy the feeling of tranquility that comes from calming down my creatures.

Filed Under: Spark Your Day Tagged With: breathing, breathing exercise, care, cravings, energy, love

Love, Naturally

February 14, 2018 By John Du Cane

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.”—Charles M. Schultz

Today, we traditionally celebrate the romance of love. Lovers swap cards, send roses, have special dinners, savor some dark chocolate and reaffirm their affection for each other. That love can be like a faint mist that disappears with the first of the sun’s rays. That love can be as deep as the ocean. That love can be as dry as tinder or as moist as a fig. That love can come unadorned or dressed in regal splendor. It can be wildly immature or seasoned beyond measure. Love can be infused with a heartfelt spirit or it can be hanging by a miserly thread. In other words, love takes as many forms as there are hearts in the world to hold it. And these forms are in constant flux.

The contemplation of romantic love on Valentine’s Day, though, can be bittersweet for those of us in recovery. Valentine’s day is as likely to evoke pain and regret and a sense of loss as it is to inspire happiness and connection. Addiction so often is the great breaker of relationships, the love-destroyer, as it were. In our compulsive, self-centered pursuit of chemical hits, we had little time to spare for the niceties of love and care. To devote energy to another was to waste energy better used in the service of our addiction. Or, so we thought.

When we entered recovery we were encouraged to open ourselves to love, but with a significant caveat. We were asked not to confuse love with our sex drive. Yearning to replace the lost relationship with our chemicals, we could become overly desperate, clingy and wanting in a risky pursuit of sexual satisfaction. Most of us react poorly to being pressured into “love”, as much as we love to love and love to be loved. And when love is forced, we enter volatile territory.

In recovery, we learned to tamp down on the excitement some. We grew our love through kindness and compassion—and did our best to go easy when the laws of attraction exerted their power over us.

Love

So, today, let’s reflect a moment on who and how we love. And we can consider softening into gentle appreciation and gratitude for the love we have been granted to give and receive.

In that spirit of a gentle approach to love, let’s perform this remarkably soothing movement:

Sit or lie in a relaxed posture. Smile with your eyes. Bring your right palm to within about two inches of the center of your chest. Pause and feel your heart area a moment. Now slowly move your right palm across your chest to the left, to the shoulder. In a continuous, slow, smooth movement run your palm down the outside of your arm until it passes over you left fingertips. Pause a moment, the reverse the movement until you palm is back over your mid-chest. Repeat a total of eight or more times. Then switch, so your left palm strokes from your heart area to the tips of your right fingers and back to the heart. This will feel surprisingly relaxing and delicious.

I give myself love and this love emanates back out into the world.

Filed Under: Spark Your Day Tagged With: compassion, kindness, love, relaxation, self-love, soothing movement

The Gratitude Attitude

January 29, 2018 By John Du Cane

“Piglet noticed that even though he had a Very Small Heart, it could hold a rather large amount of Gratitude.”—A.A. Milne

When we hit a patch of road construction, do we protest the inconvenience—or do we find it pleasing to contemplate the smoother rides ahead? Can we be thankful—grateful—for whatever we are confronted by? After all, this is the hand we’ve been dealt to deal with… We always have the choice to transform that moment, with an attitude of gratitude—or to resist that moment and suffer accordingly…

In our using days, it would have seemed preposterous to be grateful for every single moment of our unfolding lives. We were in way too much pain, much too guarded, to open ourselves to the attitude of gratitude. However, as we entered the gates of recovery, we came to believe that to be grateful in attitude was to stimulate an immediate response from the world around us. Be grateful to the world and it will shower its grace back at you. We discovered that our leap of faith into gratitude was quickly rewarded in kind.

For today then, let’s welcome whatever we have in front of us with this greeting: “Pleased to meet you. How can I help?” In recovery, we learn to offer help and accept help as the currency of a healthy spirit. The butterfly sips from the plant. Pollinated, the plant spreads its seed… That’s the natural way—and the natural way is a profoundly perfect way for those of us in recovery, is it not?

Gratitude Butterfly

When we broadcast gratitude, life transforms before our eyes. What’s magical is the speed with which this transformation happens—because it happens with the speed of light.

The gratitude choice is triggered from the mind—but its current comes from the heart. In our using days it was hard for us to love—to come from the heart—when all we were really thinking about was ourselves and our next chemical hit.

The arrival of love in our hearts was one of the nice surprises for many of us when we began our recovery. “Love exists! Who knew?” we exclaimed in wonder to ourselves—as our wounded souls bathed in the love we could not formerly feel or give… To nurture this heart energy is to nurture our recovery—big time.

With today’s internal movement method let’s be grateful for our bodies, just as we find them in this moment… And let’s in the process send our bodies some loving attention.

Lie down on a comfortable surface. Put your right palm over your heart area. Take a long, slow inhale through the nose. Sense the breath penetrating with the help of your attention deep into your beating heart. Hold your breath for about five seconds, feeling your heart. Exhale slowly. Smile gently while you send the energy out from your heart to every cell in your body. That would be the energy of love, the energy of gratitude… Hold your breath after the exhale for about another five seconds, feeling your entire body. Repeat for a total of ten cycles.

It’s empowering to acknowledge that I can transform each moment of my life by simply switching on the attitude of gratitude.

Filed Under: Spark Your Day Tagged With: breathing, breathing exercise, gratitude, love

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John Du Cane is a publisher and writer. He is the founder of Dragon Door Publications and is best known for having launched the modern kettlebell movement in 2001 and for the publication of the international bestseller Convict Conditioning. Most recently he collaborated with Debbie Harry on the writing of her New York Times bestselling memoir Face it.

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The Illustrated Wild Boy by John Du Cane

“An absorbing memoir perfectly complemented by exquisite art.” — Kirkus Reviews

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