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Hypocrisy

February 23, 2018 By John Du Cane

“Hypocrisy is the art of affecting qualities for the purpose of pretending to an undeserved virtue. Because individuals and institutions and societies most often live down to the suspicions about them, hypocrisy and its accompanying equivocations underpin the conduct of life. Imagine how frightful truth unvarnished would be.”— Benjamin F. Martin

Many of us have been two-faced in our lives—but those of us who succumbed to addiction elevated being two-faced to a high art form. We wheeled and dealed behind our shifting masks in a dizzying display of duplicity that had even the most seasoned con men shaking their heads. We were the great pretenders on the stage, acting out virtues that we did not have rightful claim to. We were the great deceivers, ever-ready to mimic to the gullible what we believed they wanted to hear. We did not mean what we said—and we never said what we meant. We were the hypocrites—holding truth hostage to the demands of our addiction.

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Yes, in our using days, weren’t we just so slick and smug—as we oiled our way from one shady transaction to another? Finally though, we found ourselves in a hall of cracked mirrors, pursued and mocked by demons that were the shades of our various pretenses. Our game faltered and fell apart… Our hypocrisies began to unravel. Our souls split apart. We were exposed. Now came the catcalls and the boos and the shame-mongering, as we were driven from the stage. Our world had cracked. And only a radical decision to seek help could restore us to sanity. We accepted that help and we began our recovery.

And we came to see—as we progressed in our recovery—that hypocrisy had no place in a healthy program. We decided to preach only what we could practice—and we practiced so the practice could allow us to preach more boldly… This way lay wisdom, lay peace, lay serenity, lay the simple pleasure that comes from aligning our words with our actions. And the beauty too, was how much less effort it took to be true to ourselves…

Today, let’s reflect for a few moments on the extent to which we are well aligned in how we present to the world. Might there still, perhaps, be some lurking hypocrisy that could be shown the door? All good then, all good…

We can be out of alignment physically as much as spiritually, of course. Serious physical mis-alignment can benefit from skilled bodywork, but there can be simple, effective ways for us to adjust ourselves. And when we adjust ourselves physically, there is often a carry-over into an emotional-spiritual re-alignment. Here’s what we’ll do today:

Sit, if you are not already sitting. If you just sat down or up—or you were already seated—notice every element of your current posture, before you change anything. Are you slumped over, spine bent? Is your head hanging forward on your protesting neck? Are your shoulders hunched? Is one shoulder higher than another? Are you clenching your jaw? Squinting?

You get the picture… Now, start straightening up— relaxing and rebalancing whatever is obviously tight or out of whack. Once you have completed your re-posturing, put a light smile on your face, close your eyes and simply be with your new alignment. Breathe gently. Rest in yourself for a while. When you feel complete, open your eyes and move on with your day.

I am aligned and appreciate the peace that descends upon me from the feeling of being true to who I really am, right now, this minute.

Filed Under: Spark Your Day Tagged With: alignment, balance, hypocrisy, posture, relaxation

Shame—And the Crisis of Being

January 18, 2018 By John Du Cane

“Shame is a soul-eating emotion.”—C. J. Jung

We feel guilty when we have done something we know is wrong. We crossed the line. We transgressed. Guilt can be the helpful signaling system that pushes us to correct the errors of our ways. Guilt can lubricate social friction and is beneficial in moderation—like most of the edgier emotions. Guilt is a good self-corrective course setter, to help us navigate our commitments in a responsible manner.

Shame, though, is another kettle of fish altogether… Shame strikes at the core of our being. It lessens us, derides us and would that we were dead. And shame brings out the worst in the bully, the predator and those who would bay with the hounds of the witch hunt. Shame can be enormously destructive. Enormously. There’s clearly a species-survival mechanism in place here—with a signal that warns us that we are “bad” to the core. “If you go on being this kind of a person, you endanger our tribe. Shape up or we’ll ship you out.” However, the cost-benefit ratio of this survival mechanism looks horribly skewed in practice, does it not?

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Those of us in recovery are all too aware of shame’s power. After all, shame took the mother of all wrecking balls to our self-esteem, our dignity—our very essence. Some of us became not much more than shallow specters of our former selves, haunted by self-loathing and despair. We allowed shame to saturate our interior landscape—often freezing us into inaction for fear of being further shamed…

In recovery, we learned that the disease of our addiction had instigated much of our shame-causing insanities. We learned to take responsibility for our past aberrations, without wallowing in the associated shame-orama. As we stitched up the rags of our tattered psyches, we learned to be gentler and more forgiving of ourselves.

Sometimes, though, some event, thought, remark, slight, or memory can cause an unwitting flush of shame to burn back onto our cheeks. That burning feeling—it’s a warning sign and it’s a vulnerability to be taken care of promptly.

Here’s a formula we will make use of now:

Adjust the body, to adjust the mind, to adjust the spirit.

Stand tall. Stand relaxed. Put the hint of a smile on your face. Rotate your shoulders up, back and down. Press your shoulder blades close to each other. Hold the position for ten seconds. Relax and repeat for a total of ten times. Your chest will naturally expand somewhat and push forward. That’s fine and good. You may feel like a bit of a puffed-up peacock while you hold this position. Well, good for you! It makes for a nice antidote to the hunched, rounded shoulders and hangdog look of the shame-based profile. Let your body posture be your medicine for today…

It feels exhilarating to right now assert proud posture and a smiling self-confidence!

Filed Under: Spark Your Day Tagged With: posture, self-confidence, shame, shoulders

My Dear Spine

January 5, 2018 By John Du Cane Leave a Comment

“Look well to the spine for the cause of disease.”—Hippocrates

What are we in recovery, without our support systems? We learned through bitter trial and error that handling our challenges alone could be a perilous choice. Loneliness can dog us into risk. A compassionate group of friends can maintain and comfort us when we struggle. Without a good support network, we can “lack the spine” to overcome our obstacles. With a good set of friends, we can have the backbone to face any adversity with confidence and resolve.

Now friendship, of course, is a two-way street. Reciprocity is a must. We give to be given to, in a spirit of natural kindness. And so it is with our once-in-a-lifetime bodies. Care for our body, that it cares for us. Which brings us to our all-important spinal column—our literal support system for carrying us through our world. For just as friendship taken for granted can become friendship lost, so a disregard for our spine can lead a cascade of issues. A cared-for spine will return the favor with a calmer nervous system, greater vigor and reduced discomfort. Let’s love our spine so it may love us back…

Spine, Spinal Column

Here’s a fun, simple movement to release and enliven our spine for today:

Stand with knees slightly bent and the arms at your sides. Swing your arms round to the left side, turning your waist in the same direction, while sinking your weight into your right leg. Reverse and repeat to the other side in a fluid, super-relaxed manner. Breathe softly. Continue for twenty to thirty reps each side. Have a hint of a smile on your face.

It feels great to have reconnected with my spine today—so we can heal ourselves together.

Filed Under: Spark Your Day Tagged With: breathing, movement, posture, spine

My Mood, My Posture

January 3, 2018 By John Du Cane Leave a Comment

 

“Posture is the key to life.”—Mark Twain

Our self-respect took quite the hammering in those difficult old days of chemical and other abuse… And the dark shadows of our past insanities can still cast their spell on our sometime fragile serenity. One way our past shows up in our present is often in our carriage. Many of us, for instance, have slumped shoulders and sunken chests. While our deskbound culture and attachment to mobile devices has created an epidemic of poor upper body posture, our careless disregard for our bodies while using contributed often to this look of resigned defeat.

Modern research, however, has shown a strong correlation between our moods and how we carry ourselves. More specifically, scientists have proven that we can often positively affect our emotions simply by modifying our posture. And it can happen within minutes of taking action. How wonderful is that!

Spark Your Day, January 3rd: Posture

So, for today, we will help our self-respect by performing a set of movements to release and improve our shoulder placement. This exercise can help strengthen our upper back muscles, restore mobility, reduce discomfort and—over time—improve both mood and posture. You may feel a tingling, buzzing sensation as fresh blood floods into the area. Enjoy the pleasurable feeling, as it’s a welcome sign of healing.

Stand with feet at shoulder-width, arms resting by your sides and your butt tucked gently forward. Circle your shoulders up, forwards, down and backwards, making a full 360-degree rotation. Repeat in the opposite direction. Do up to 20 repetitions in both directions.

Next, pull your shoulders back and down, bringing your shoulder blades together as close as possible. Keep the chest area as relaxed as possible. Tighten the muscles in the upper back and hold for five seconds. Relax. Repeat five to ten times. And enjoy the boost to your mood!

I am excited to have changed my mood for the better, by changing my posture for the better.

Filed Under: Spark Your Day Tagged With: mood, posture

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